The Stress Free Mum

Driving down the country lane on the outskirts of Bedfordshire was an experience of a lifetime. The scenery of the long stretch of fields was breathtaking. I had driven through many cities but this was different – I couldn’t help but appreciate nature.

It all looked like a scene from a periodic drama. Everywhere looked surreal yet beautiful – I felt like stopping by the wayside to take pictures. Couldn’t wait to tell Hubby Dearest about this part of the UK. I smiled as I rehearsed how I was going to gloat to my man. Well, the smile quickly disappeared when I realised I had taken the wrong turn and had no way to turn back despite the satnav screaming – ‘Turn Around When Possible!’.

I kept on the wrong course although I knew I had to change the route. I desperately looked for a way out – I never knew village roads could be so long and narrow. I eventually found a little roadside farm.

This was my way of escape – I drove into it and turned around before heading, this time, in the right direction. Though a little late, I got to my destination.

Isn’t this the case at times on our parenting journey? We are all excited about the role, make a few moves and turns and it suddenly dawns on us that we need to change course. We sometimes feel helpless and often think there is no remedy to the difficulties faced with our children, however, it is not too late to turn around and go back to the basics.

Here are a few points to get us started:-

1. Be Consistent

This helps children feel secure. Do not backtrack on what you say. Always follow through what you have said. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If not, children will not take you seriously.

2. Be Firm

Children need clear boundaries and guidance to understand what is expected of them.  Without clear rules, children have no option but to misbehave. Children need to know what is expected of them.

3. Be Calm

Staying calm gives us a much better chance to remain objective. Although easier said than done, it gives you a good chance of dealing with issues effectively and successfully.

4. Give Love

Do make sure your child feels loved. Show it and tell it. Giving love is not only for good times but the not so good times when children misbehave.

5. Give Time

Children spell love as T-I-M-E. Spend quality time with your children daily. This is the most precious gift you can give your child.

6. Give Praise

Children need meaningful praise. Your approval means a lot to your child. Let them see your excitement through your eyes, words and actions.